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She continued, “It is my absolute wish to proceed through this process with respect and with the privacy that both Tom and I deserved.”
Erika and Tom have each gone through divorces before.
The pair met in the 1990s at a restaurant in West Hollywood where Erika was serving drinks. They got engaged about six months later. She recounted the experience in her 2018 memoir, Pretty Mess, writing, “One night I decided to slip Tom my telephone number… We were standing in front of the giant fireplace. ‘Did you hear I was single?’ I asked.”
Although they didn’t get a prenup before the wedding, Erika doesn’t think it would have mattered during their fallout. She explained to Andy Cohen in 2017, “I’m married to a very powerful lawyer… A prenup wouldn’t stand in his way anyway… It’s gonna be all Tom’s way, I assure you. He’ll rip that piece of paper to shreds in two seconds!”
Erika has appeared on the RHOBH since 2015, and the Bravo show brought even more drama this year for season 10. Catch up online.
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